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Husbands, Love Your Wives Part 3 Ephesians 5.25-32 Washing with the Water of the Word As Christ washes his Bride in the Word, so husbands are to wash their wives in the Word (Eph 5.25-26).  This is an indispensable means of nourishing and cherishing.  A husband must lead his family in the Word regularly.  The Word is food, and eating every once in a while is not nourishment.  He should establish and conduct regular family devotions.  Just 15 minutes on a regularly basis would be a vast improvement in most homes. It is also especially beneficial to have little time of regular prayer with just you and your wife. Washing with the Word also contemplates “letting the Word...

posted on: Sep 10, 2010 | author: Alan Burrow

Marriage Booster

Husbands, Love Your Wives Part 2 Ephesians 5.25-32 “He Gave Himself for Her” Husbands are to give themselves for their wives as Christ gave himself for the Church.  Already we run into a problem, men, for while willingness to die for another is part of the male psyche, living for another is not.  Yet, Jesus shows us that active, on-going giving of yourself for your wife is the very essence of masculine love.  Christ did not give himself at the cross only; he also gave himself in his earthly ministry (Mat 20.28), and even now “he ever lives to intercede for us” (Heb 7.25).  That kind of active giving does not just happen; it requires prayer, planning, commitment,...

posted on: Sep 9, 2010 | author: Alan Burrow

Marriage Booster

Husbands, Love Your Wives Part 1 Ephesians 5.25-32 Overview of the Text The central command to husbands is to love their wives (Eph 5.25), and they are to pattern their love after Christ’s love for his Bride, the Church (ibid.).  The central manifestation of Christ’s love is that he “gave himself for her” (ibid.).  Even so, the central manifestation of a husband’s love must be in giving himself for his wife. Christ gave himself with a specific goal in view, and a husband must give himself for the same purpose, that his bride should be “glorious” and “holy.”  (Eph 5.27.)  Glory and holiness are the results of sanctification, and sanctification is the result of being washed with the...

posted on: Sep 8, 2010 | author: Alan Burrow

Marriage Booster

A matter of ownership. Marriage is a three-way union — the third party being the Holy Spirit (Mal 2.15).  Indwelling by the Spirit is God’s way of staking claim to something.  It’s His way of saying, “This is Mine.  It belongs to Me.”  (1Cor 6.19.)  And not just generically —  for generically everything belongs to God (Dt 10.14) — but specially and personally and redemptively (1Cor 6.19-20.)  Paul tells the Corinthians that the Spirit indwells them individually as bodies and together as a Body, and thus they each are God’s temple and together they are God’s temple (1Cor 6.19; 3.16).  The whole is not only greater than the sum of the parts, the whole is different than the...

posted on: Aug 12, 2010 | author: Alan Burrow

Marriage Booster

Marriage in Context (Or How to Solve 90% of Your Marriage Problems) Many of the challenges encountered by Christian husbands and wives stem from our tendency to approach marriage in isolation from its biblical context.  In the NT, marriage is always addressed in the context of Body life in Christ.  (See Eph 4.1-5.25; Col 3.1-19; 1Pet1.22-3.9.)  And as a facet of Body life, marriage presumes a foundation of all basic Christian duties.  Within marriage, however, we tend to focus on the special duties of husbands and wives apart from the more basic Christian duties that flow from “love your neighbor as yourself” and “love one another as I have loved you.”  (Mt 22.39; Jn 13.34.)  We tend to...

posted on: Aug 7, 2010 | author: Alan Burrow